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Hey, love! Welcome back to The Glow Up Guide Collective. Today, we’re diving deep into the hidden waters of confidence. We're unraveling those sneaky, silent confidence killers that you might not even realize you're carrying. These are not the ones that loudly announce their presence, but the ones that whisper doubts, like "Don't be too much" or "Maybe they won't like you if you say that."
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering why you don’t feel confident yet, despite all the work you’ve put in, this post is especially for you. So, grab your coffee, light a candle, or take me along on a walk. Let's peel back those layers and reconnect with the true you.
Let's clear something up right away confidence isn't about being loud or the center of attention, and it’s definitely not about always having the right thing to say. Confidence is about self-trust. It’s walking into a room and knowing that you don't have to prove anything. It's speaking with love, even when your voice shakes, and looking in the mirror to see evidence of all you've survived and how you’ve continued to appear through it all.
But here’s what makes it tricky: most of us weren’t taught to trust ourselves. We were raised to get things right, to please others, to minimize our needs, and wait for permission. These lessons quietly turn into stories we carry, undermining our confidence. Let’s break them down today.
You say sorry as a knee-jerk reaction, even when you’ve done nothing wrong. Try this remedy: next time, say "Thank you for your patience" or "Let me clarify." Remember, every unnecessary apology diminishes your voice. And girl, your voice is sacred.
Scrolling through social media can leave you feeling inadequate, thinking everyone is further ahead. But confidence doesn’t thrive in comparison; it flourishes in celebration. Start a "Proof of Progress" journal and jot down at least one thing daily that makes you proud.
We often deflect compliments maybe you downplay your outfit by saying "Oh, it was cheap," or brush off your achievements. Instead, embrace and accept praise by simply saying, "Thank you. That means a lot."
Procrastination often masks itself as perfectionism, waiting for the "perfect" moment. Confidence, however, comes from action, not perfection. Try the messy action method: set a timer for 15 minutes and dive into whatever you're postponing.
When your inner voice becomes critical, transform it into your hype woman. Practice mirror talk with phrases like "I am proud of who I am becoming" or "I need unfolding, not fixing."
Start with Awareness: You need awareness to change anything. Notice when you're apologizing or diminishing yourself, then pause and ask, "Is this really who I want to be today?"
Speak to Yourself as Your Best Friend Would: Write affirmations and place them where you’ll see them. Let them interrupt any doubt.
Embody Her Now: Don’t wait to feel confident it’s a practice. Ask yourself daily how the most confident version of you would show up, and do one thing in her spirit. Whether it’s wearing red lipstick or speaking up, she's already within you.
Remember, you weren’t born doubting yourself. That came from years of playing small and attempting to meet others' expectations. Today, you can unlearn those habits. Walk into rooms boldly because you belong there.
Did this post give you a new perspective? Tag a sister who needs to hear this and share! And don’t forget to download your free Glow Up Guide Starter Kit with journal prompts, daily rituals, and affirmations. It’s in the show notes! Until next time, love, show up as the woman you’re becoming because she’s already inside of you, you just have to keep choosing her.
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