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Welcome back to the Glow Up Guide Collective, the place where we shed self-sabotage, rewrite our inner stories, and blossom into the incredible woman we were always meant to be. Today's post is incredibly close to my heart because it's about something many of us do without even recognizing it emotionally abandoning ourselves. Let's dive into this journey together, bestie!
Recognizing Emotional Abandonment
Do you ever find yourself being there for everyone else, but ignoring your own emotions and needs? You listen, support, and hold space for others, yet when it comes to you, your own feelings get shoved to the back burner. You tell yourself, “I’m fine,” even when you're not. Sound familiar?
That feeling of being disconnected from yourself, dear one, is a wound, but here's the beautiful thing about wounds: they can lead us to our power if we choose to face them. So today, let’s explore what emotional self-abandonment really looks like, where it stems from, and, more importantly, how we can reconnect with our true selves.
What Emotional Self-Abandonment Looks Like
First, let's define emotional self-abandonment with both clarity and compassion. It's disconnecting from your feelings, silencing your truth, and often choosing others' comfort over your own honesty. It’s ignoring your gut when something doesn’t feel right, saying yes when your whole being screams no, and brushing off your needs thinking, "I’m overreacting."
The Roots of Self-Abandonment
Most of us start abandoning ourselves before we even know we’re doing it. Perhaps you grew up in an environment where emotions were dismissed or where you were praised for being the strong one who never needed too much. It’s easy to fall into the belief that your feelings are inconvenient or that your needs are a burden. Trust me, I’ve been there too.
How to Stop Self-Abandonment and Reconnect with Yourself
Every morning or night, ask yourself, "How am I really doing?" Acknowledge your emotions and needs. Whether through journaling or voice memos, make it a habit to check in with yourself.
Instead of rushing to fix your feelings, sit with them. Tell yourself, “Of course, I feel this way. My feelings are valid,” and remind yourself that your emotions are a part of you, not too much or too little.
Talk to that younger version of you who just wanted to be seen and loved. Ask her what she needs and provide that through rest, play, or even just being gentle with yourself.
Your job isn't to solve every emotion, it's to hold space for them. Whether it's crying it out or journaling your feelings, allow yourself to experience emotions without judgment.
Incorporate a daily practice that’s just for you. It could be a quiet cup of tea, a simple dance, or lighting a candle and savoring a moment of peace. Let this ritual affirm, “I matter.”
My Personal Journey
A few years ago, I hit an emotional rock bottom. Pouring everything I had into work and relationships while neglecting myself eventually left me feeling hollow and disconnected. I realized I had lost touch with who I was and had to begin a journey of rediscovering myself.
By journaling and speaking my truth, I gradually learned who I truly am, and, most importantly, I promised never to abandon myself again.
A Final Note: Choose You
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